Infidelity and Three Main Categories of Cheating

The act of infidelity, or cheating, can vary from one relationship to another. While the exact acts that make up cheating may change, the definition of infidelity is the same regardless of relationship or act. Infidelity is breaking your partner’s trust when you keep meaningful or intimate secrets. 

Trust is the foundation of healthy relationships. Regardless of how your partner has been unfaithful, if they have broken your trust, an act of infidelity has occurred.

There are three categories of infidelity that most acts of cheating fall into. 

  1. Purely sexual 
    This category is what many pornography addicts or sex addicts fall under. It includes people who are engaging in casual hook ups, excessive pornography use or other sexual activities that lack meaningful connection. People who secretly use dating or hook up apps or utilize pornography in an unhealthy way will fall into this category. 
  2. Emotionally connected, but casual 
    This category includes people who return to the same casual partners for convenient sex or hook ups, but the relationship lacks deep connection. 
  3. Emotional affair 
    This category includes instances when a person forms long-term emotional connections during an affair, and could include an affair with a co-worker or friend. This could also include deep friendships that you may keep secret from your partner, even if the friendship has not turned sexual. By keeping a secret, you break the trust of your relationship.

Understanding the extent of the infidelity can often be the first step in recovery. For more information about recovery and therapy, contact Coeur d’Alene Counseling today.