Healthy Sexuality Requires Self-Care
Recovering from sexual addiction is about more than sex. As with any path to recovery from addiction, you have to relearn about yourself.
In previous blogs, we’ve discussed how to re-evaluate what you want and what you’re comfortable with in sexual relationships. However, one commonly missed area of recovery is self-care.
Self-care is the act of taking care of yourself physically and mentally, including your health, appearance, and well-being. Many addicts have suffered from self-care deprivation during their time while addicted to sex or pornography. While you may have had a roof over your head and food on your table, there may have been other ways you denied yourself care: Maybe you didn’t floss your teeth, eat proper nutritious food or exercise regularly. Because someone was “rotting” one area of your life, so to speak, you let it “infect” other areas of your well-being.
Self-care includes some of the following aspects:
Personal hygiene — taking care of your teeth, showering, shaving regularly, getting haircuts or other important hygiene practices.
Health — exercising, going to the doctor or dentist, addressing health concerns
Diet — eating well, preparing healthful meals, avoiding drive-thrus or fast food, getting vitamins
Clothing — do you pay attention to your appearance, presenting yourself as a comfortable, confident person, with clean, pressed, professional clothing
Cleanliness — washing bed sheets, cleaning your home, doing the dishes, garbage emptied regularly
Mental health — are you mindful of your breathing? Do you know what makes you happy or sad?
One common reason for this is harboring feelings of shame during your addiction. You knew the addiction to sex, meaningless hookups or dating apps was wrong, so you subconsciously punished yourself in other areas of your life.
Now that you’re on the road to recovery, it’s time to start celebrating yourself again. Part of recovery, as we’ve talked about, is learning to love yourself. Self-care is an easy way to learn about yourself and love yourself again.
For more information on healthy sexuality visit www.centerforhealthysex.com.