Shame’s Proximity

It’s what I believe.  I’m not worthy to be in proximity of anything good.  My reflection onto it, I believe, is rejected.  Certainly rejected.  I feel that rejection.  It hurts.  Terribly.  Avoiding goodness, then, avoids feeling terribly hurt… My problem is that goodness is like air.  It’s permanently certain.  Inescapably.  So I’m permanently certain, then, […]

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DOES SEX ADDICTION KILL?

A good friend emailed me on Sunday morning. He lives on the other side of the country, in Maine, and I’m a certified sex addition therapist (CSAT). He wanted me to see an NBC Asian America report on the Atlanta-area spa shootings. Specifically, he wanted me to know that the shooter told the Atlanta Police […]

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Is Online Counseling Effective?

The advent of digital technology has brought about many changes in our lives. This includes the ways by which we obtain and receive services such as healthcare. Nowadays, we are just as likely to receive counseling online as to consult with a therapist in an office. For an increasing number of people, online counseling that […]

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4 Ways Sex Addiction Can Affect Your Marriage

All marriages have their own set of challenges and setbacks. With stressful circumstances in life such as jobs, money, and children, it can be easy to see why. While expected in marriage, these circumstances can all add strain to a couple’s relationship, requiring constant communication and partnership to overcome them. But what happens when there […]

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Polygraphs? Probably Not!

On occasion I’m asked if I use polygraphs in my work as a sexual addiction therapist.  Polygraph requests are typically made by betrayed partners when trust in their relationship has been damaged. I believe that trust is only re-established by seeing behavior that is consistent with words and intention over time.  Polygraphs may appear promising […]

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Signs of Sexual Addiction — 4 Questions to ask Yourself

In previous blogs, we’ve discussed what is not a sign of sexual addiction. While one person’s sexual preferences or sex drive may be different from another’s, this does not mean they have a sexual addiction. However, as with most types of addiction, there are some clear signs and symptoms of sexual addicting. If you have been […]

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Sexual Addiction Training Opportunity in Spokane, Washington

For mental health professionals and any others interested in learning about sexual addictions, I am conducting a workshop in Spokane, Washington. Please click on the link below for more information. http://campaign.r20.constantcontact.com/render?m=1119107151698&ca=d47ae779-ffa1-4c30-b34a-97150fd82402

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Response to AASECT Position Statement

AASECT, A major sex education professional organization, recently stated that problematic sexual behavior, such as abusing pornography, cannot be referred to as an addiction. They are mistaken. The following is my professional organization’s official response to their released position statement.  I personally invite you to take a few moments to read it. Recently, The American […]

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Porn Addiction Counseling Spokane

Porn addiction counseling Spokane style helps both men and women sex addicts. The patterns of men and women sex addicts are different. Men’s patterns are readily recognizable. They include anonymous partner sex, viewing pornography and masturbating compulsively, and paying for sex, just to mention a few. Women’s patterns, on the other hand, are less recognizable. […]

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