Willingness not HORNY-NESS

For long-term sex addicts, having sex with an intimate connected partner has to come from a place of “willingness” not HORNY-NESS[1]. Sexual addicts expecting to have the same rush of excitement at having sex with his/her spouse as was the case of hooking up on an app with a stranger or masturbating to pornography (just […]

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Spinning Out of Control

The numbers are sobering.  Between three and six percent of men and women in Kootenai County suffer from sexual addiction, according to Ed Dudding, a certifi ed sexual addiction therapist in Coeur d’Alene.  “Sexual addiction is defined as any sexually related, compulsive behavior which interferes with normal living and causes severe stress on family, friends, […]

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Talking to a sex addiction therapist; a secure, judgment-free way to overcome addiction

Certified sex addiction therapists have a very specific job — to help those struggling with sexual addiction to overcome their addiction. Many seeking assistance fear judgment, both from their partners and loved ones or the therapists with whom they’re consulting, regarding their sexual preferences or behaviors. This is not the case for certified sex addiction therapists. […]

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What is the difference between love addiction and porn addiction?

For someone struggling with addiction, or the partner of someone struggling with addiction, definitions of the problem might start to bog down the recovery process. You or your spouse may know or even admit there is a problem in the relationship, but defining that problem could be difficult — sometimes even as difficult as admitting […]

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Don’t confuse sex addicts, offenders

Originally published in the CDA Press on August 27, 2015 Recent local stories – of a financial aid director abusing his power against women, of a serial child molester, of an alleged rapist – have the disturbing sex offender in mind. We’re told such behavior generally repeats itself; are these offenders addicts? Does it matter? […]

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Addicted to Love in Spokane and Coeur d’Alene

I am addicted to love and the only way I know to deeply love someone is to have an immense amount of sex with her, and if she is unobtainable in any way, I become intensely lovesick. After sharing this, my client said that he falls in love, gets into [romantic] relationships, and breaks up […]

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Love Addiction, What Is It?

What is love addiction?  Often in clinical settings such as a physician or counselor’s office, love addiction is overlooked or minimized. That means, the behaviors discussed or uncovered there are dismissed as trivial to other explanations for the client’s/patient’s complaints, and what often results is the treatment for those complaints fail. Love addiction is often […]

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All Gay Men are Sexual Addicts. That is Absurd!

To believe that all gay men are sexual addicts is unfortunate because it is not true.  And it is irresponsible to spread the idea that all gay men are sexual addicts or claim that homosexuality is a sexual addiction. Sexual addiction does not explain gay men’s homosexuality. Sexual addiction does not explain straight men’s heterosexuality. […]

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Obsessive Sexual Behavior, Is it an Addiction?

Is obsessive sexual behavior an addiction? That depends. The fact is that mental health professionals, such as counselors, social workers, psychologists, and psychiatrists, view obsessive sexual behavior differently, and many mental health professionals do not believe that sex addiction exists.  Yet the fact is sex addiction is real, and whether one is wrong or right […]

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Spokane and Coeur d’Alene Masturbating to Porn

Spokane and Coeur d’Alene can’t stop masturbating to porn. That means Spokane and Coeur d’Alene has a porn problem. In fact, every American community has a problem stopping masturbating to porn. The misuse of pornography and masturbation is so widespread that “epidemic” might be the appropriate description. The following are three current facts about pornography […]

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