CONFESSIONS OF A SEX ADDICTION THERAPIST

My Patients Come and Go, That’s the Good News Usually, it’s the wife who calls me. She and Joe married five or ten years ago and have a couple of kids. He’s a professional. Both are college-educated. A few days ago, she saw something on his phone – a text string, a porn trail – […]

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Things to know as the partner of a recovering sex addict

As the partner of a sexual addict, you have probably been lied to, and learned that your partner covered up secret lives or manipulated you. It is understandable that most partners of sex addicts feel betrayed and violated after finding out about infidelity. However, if you have chosen to try to work through the addiction […]

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Rebuilding your relationship tips for partners

After a person who is addicted to sex or porn decides they want to overcome their addiction, it is up to them to change their behavior and hold themselves accountable (although there are steps and tools they can utilize.) However, when it comes to rebuilding the relationship between a recovering addict and their spouse or partner, both […]

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Dos and don’ts for the partners of sex addicts

After discovering a partner, spouse or loved one has a sexual addiction, you may put all your focus on your significant other. You may focus on how to help the addict and what steps can be taken to get them professional therapy. However, as the partner of someone with a sexual addiction, you will need […]

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Symptoms of sex addiction: What behaviors to look for in your partner

Over time, you may begin to notice changes in your partner or spouse’s behavior, and you may wonder, “Is my partner a sex addict?” Some behaviors alone might not be indicative of addiction; however, a combination of several behaviors could be a sign of sexual addiction. Here are four basic behaviors that may be symptoms […]

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Stay or go?

As the partner of a sex addict, one question you may have throughout the recovery process is whether you should stay in the relationship and try to work things out, or file for divorce or end the relationship. Usually, those asking themselves this question are highly invested in the relationship – maybe you’re married with children, […]

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The most common question: is this going to get better?

So somehow, you learned about your partner’s sexual addiction. Maybe a friend told you, maybe you found evidence on the computer, or maybe your spouse admitted it to you. However you found out, you’re going to be going through a lot of emotions. A lot of different thoughts will be going through your head in […]

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The stages of recovery for the partner of an addict

Much like we have come to acknowledge the five stages of grief when someone experiences a great loss – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – those in recovery as partners of sexual addicts also go through stages. The person addicted to sex or pornography will also go through the same stages of recovery. However, both […]

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The first steps – what to do as the partner of a sex addict

Most times, partners of sexual addicts learn about their partner’s secret on accident. This could be through a friend, by discovering internet search history or coming across other undeniable evidence. Or, your partner may choose to tell you they have a pornography addiction. Regardless, once you know, it’s impossible to go back. You may have […]

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Symptoms of Sexual Addiction for Women

While many people assume that the majority of sex addicts are men, that’s not necessarily the case. Studies have reported that about 25 percent of those in sexual addiction recovery programs are women. However, because of this misinformation, addiction behaviors in women are more difficult to spot and are often viewed as issues with “romance” […]

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