A Few Sexual Addiction Terms and Topics
People can become easily confused by the terminology used to explain sexual addiction. Since terms like sex addict, sexaholic, Internet sex addict, porn addict, sexual compulsive, sex and love addict are all so similar, they can easily confuse someone wishing to better understand these disorders and work toward healing. For the wife who wants to learn how to tell if her husband is a sex addict or the parent concerned about a teenager’s involvement with Internet porn, the terminology itself may be less important than how the sexual behavior problem affects the individual’s life priorities.
In general, sex addicts tend to have compulsive and repetitive sexual patterns whereas love addicts tend to use relationships and sexual affairs to achieve similar levels of emotional intensity and distraction. Sexaholic, sex addict, and sexually compulsive are interchangeable terms that only serve to indicate which 12-step program the person attends, more than the specific problem they experience. Taking the sex addict quiz will further clarify whether or not the individual’s problem is of real concern.
12-step Support for Sex Addicts
To clarify, but hopefully not confuse the reader further, people attending Sexaholics Anonymous and Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings consider themselves sex addicts, people attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings consider themselves sex and love addicts, and those attending Sexual Compulsives Anonymous meetings refer to themselves as sexual compulsives. Women sex addicts can be found at all of these support groups, but in general women do best in meetings where men are not in attendance.
Someone with an Internet sex problem is best served by attending whatever group best reflects the nature of his or her particular behavior. None of this is particularly meaningful, however, unless people attend consistently and fully involve themselves in the process offered there. This means attending meetings three or more times weekly at the beginning, getting a sponsor, and taking the typical 12-step service commitments.
For the sex addict, help is available. One just needs a bit of willingness to reach out for it. For local meeting information, CLICK HERE.
Support for the Spouse or Significant Other
Different types of support are suggested to help the spouses and partners of sexual addicts. These recommendations range from seeing a therapist or clergy, to reaching out to non-judgmental loved-ones for help and/or attending12-step groups like COSA, CODA, and Alanon. These groups exist specifically to help guide the sex addict’s spouse or significant other whose life has been affected by the addict’s problem behavior.
While the problem of sexual addiction in a family member or loved one can feel shameful and humiliating, the support groups available to partners are extremely welcoming and offer a great deal of hope to those courageous enough to show up.
The Male Sexual Screening Addiction Test (G-SAST-R) is a preliminary sexual addiction assessment tool. The G-SAST-R provides a profile of responses that help to identify men with sexual impulse disorders. To complete the test, answer each question by placing a check in the appropriate Yes/No box. When you submit the test, you will be given a score that will indicate the level of urgency in seeking help from a professional such as Ed Dudding at Coeur d’Alene Counseling. Our phone number is 208-755-7114.