Sexual addiction in the digital age — how is technology impacting the problem?

Easy access is one of the things that make cell phones, the internet and apps so appealing in today’s world. It is also one of the things that make pornography easier to access than ever before, meaning that more men and women have the chance to use dating or hookup cell phone applications, pornography websites […]

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Willingness not HORNY-NESS

For long-term sex addicts, having sex with an intimate connected partner has to come from a place of “willingness” not HORNY-NESS[1]. Sexual addicts expecting to have the same rush of excitement at having sex with his/her spouse as was the case of hooking up on an app with a stranger or masturbating to pornography (just […]

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How much should a partner know about their significant other’s sexual addiction?

Many partners find out about their significant other’s sexual addiction by accident — a friend tells the partner or they find signs of the addiction on the computer — or maybe the addict decides on their own that it’s time to seek help. No matter how the partner learns about the sexual addiction, it will […]

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Spinning Out of Control

The numbers are sobering.  Between three and six percent of men and women in Kootenai County suffer from sexual addiction, according to Ed Dudding, a certifi ed sexual addiction therapist in Coeur d’Alene.  “Sexual addiction is defined as any sexually related, compulsive behavior which interferes with normal living and causes severe stress on family, friends, […]

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What about sex? How to deal with intimate relations on the road to recovery

Many times, during the recovery process, sex addicts or their partner may wonder if sex is completely off the table. Most times, sexual addiction has caused pain and broken trust for one or both partners, which makes the thought of sex uncomfortable or terrifying. This feeling is normal for couples here in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, […]

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Four ways to restore trust for a couple while recovering from sexual addiction

Once a sexual addiction is exposed in a relationship, it does not just affect the partner dealing with the addiction, but also caused stress and heartbreak for their partner as well. Often, trust is broken, as one partner has usually been lying to the other in some form. For couples in north Idaho and Washington […]

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Talking to a sex addiction therapist; a secure, judgment-free way to overcome addiction

Certified sex addiction therapists have a very specific job — to help those struggling with sexual addiction to overcome their addiction. Many seeking assistance fear judgment, both from their partners and loved ones or the therapists with whom they’re consulting, regarding their sexual preferences or behaviors. This is not the case for certified sex addiction therapists. […]

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What is the difference between love addiction and porn addiction?

For someone struggling with addiction, or the partner of someone struggling with addiction, definitions of the problem might start to bog down the recovery process. You or your spouse may know or even admit there is a problem in the relationship, but defining that problem could be difficult — sometimes even as difficult as admitting […]

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Partners can have hope: There is always a chance for recovery

The first step to recovery — in any circumstance — is admitting that a problem exists, including those problems that plague a sex addict. Whether the problem is an abuse of pornography or masturbation, the consequence can cause feelings of pain and betrayal for the partner. Love and sex addicts create a painful paradox for both themselves […]

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Betrayal: the feelings of the partner of a sex addict

As with any compulsion or dependence, the consequences of a sexual addiction do not only affect the addict. In fact, many times for couples in the northwest, the partner of the sex addict can feel some of the heaviest weights of the addiction, which can interject a feeling of betrayal into the relationship, destroying the […]

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