WHY DO PEOPLE WITH ADDICTIONS SEEK TO ESCAPE RATHER THAN CONNECT? A LOOK AT THE APPROACH TO ADDICTION TREATMENT
Authors: Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S Citation: Consultant. 2016;56(9): 786-790. ABSTRACT: A strong belief exists among addiction treatment specialists that the primary reason addicts remain addicted is less about pleasure-seeking and more about their need to escape and dissociate from the pain of his or her (often trauma-based) emotional isolation. In short, all human beings crave […]Read More
6 steps for the partner of a sex addict
Many times after someone discovers their partner is a sexual addict, all the focus is on the addict: What can be done to help them recover from the addiction? In the drive to get the addict help, partners sometimes let their own recovery fall to the wayside. Many partners of sexual or pornography addicts often […]Read More
Tools to help sexual addicts recover long-term
As days turn into weeks, and months into years during the recovery process, sexual addicts may unfortunately begin to relax their recovery behavior. Long-term recovery is possible, but it takes honesty, integrity and a wiliness to seek help when needed. Otherwise, slips and relapses could occur. Slips, or momentary return to addiction through mostly unintended […]Read More
Why am I involved?
Three reasons the partner of a sexual addict should be involved in the recovery process. Sometimes, partners of those with a sexual addiction have a similar questions — why do I need to be involved in this process? Why is this recovery my burden as well? Many partners in North Idaho or Washington have questions […]Read More
The six stages of long-term recovery, and how to rebuilt trust
As sexual addicts and their partners begin to consider recovery and reforming their relationship, it may seem as though it is impossible. However, recovery for sexual addicts and their partners is possible, especially with hard work, communication and respect, as well as the help of a certified professional. Recovering from a sexual addition will take […]Read More
Why is mindfulness an important step in recovery?
Mindfulness is an important part of the recovery process for those struggling with sexual or pornography addictions, as well as for their partners. It is a technique that helps those using it to observe what is happening without judging or forming an opinion. Many people use mindfulness daily — you may be using this subtle […]Read More
Sexual addiction in the digital age — how is technology impacting the problem?
Easy access is one of the things that make cell phones, the internet and apps so appealing in today’s world. It is also one of the things that make pornography easier to access than ever before, meaning that more men and women have the chance to use dating or hookup cell phone applications, pornography websites […]Read More
Willingness not HORNY-NESS
For long-term sex addicts, having sex with an intimate connected partner has to come from a place of “willingness” not HORNY-NESS. Sexual addicts expecting to have the same rush of excitement at having sex with his/her spouse as was the case of hooking up on an app with a stranger or masturbating to pornography (just […]Read More
How much should a partner know about their significant other’s sexual addiction?
Many partners find out about their significant other’s sexual addiction by accident — a friend tells the partner or they find signs of the addiction on the computer — or maybe the addict decides on their own that it’s time to seek help. No matter how the partner learns about the sexual addiction, it will […]Read More
Spinning Out of Control
The numbers are sobering. Between three and six percent of men and women in Kootenai County suffer from sexual addiction, according to Ed Dudding, a certiﬁ ed sexual addiction therapist in Coeur d’Alene. “Sexual addiction is deﬁned as any sexually related, compulsive behavior which interferes with normal living and causes severe stress on family, friends, […]Read More